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Abuse-free Childhood

Posted: December 4, 2012 in Childhood

After reading the news from Norway, hearing first-hand accounts from friends and family – I am convinced some people have no business becoming parents.

Somehow, society would have forced this idea of family and children on them – and being too stupid or timid to question this tutoring, they would have played along. Only to take out the frustrations of their unfulfiled love and dreams on those tiny tots.

What a shame.

The not-so-funny part is – India is a country where society tacitly condones any kind of violenece against anybody. especially if the victim is helpless and defenceless. In marital disputes, if a wife gets beaten up by her family, she probably deserved it. Parents have the license to discipline their children by any means they want – after all who wishes the kids welfare the most?

If countries like India need to reflect on how society’s collective behavior affects individual families, countries in the Western Europe too have to ask if punishing erring parents for physically abusing their children is enough to ensure good parenting.

What about parents that behave irresponsibly towards their children (smoking, drinking, binging on unhealthy food when pregnant or breastfeeding etc). What about the high divorce rates resulting in broken homes and confused, angry children? Do they have no responsibility against this kind of bad parenting? I guess the foster homes will burst at the seams if they start taking away children on these pretexts. The Western high moral ground looks ludicruous and pretentious in this context.

If we are serious about creating a better, beautiful world for the children of tommorrow, we need to get a more holistic perspective on what scars childrens psyche. Physical abuse can never be condoned but emotional trauma should not be overlooked either. Else we are only looking at half-baked solutions.



Posted: April 24, 2010 in Childhood

Some strange bird put this song’s tune (“Ninnu kori Varnam” from the movie Agni Natchattiram) into my mind I was humming away to glory the whole day.

As I Youtubed it and watched the video, could’nt help remember how I would run to the TV hall and be glued to Oliyum Oliyum when this song figured.

That was also a time when my Carnatic music training (which I had joined as a fashion statement to hang out among the happening chicks in our apartment complex, but my mom ensured I got my lessons solo, much to my disappointment – more on that later :))..) was full-on.

There are two geetams with different ragas starting with the words Ninnu kori. At school, when we had free periods, the substitute teacher sometimes chose to have talent shows if the students got too noisy or bored. Someone at random will be egged on to sing, dance or both. When I was asked, I said I will sing “Ninnu Kori Varnum” to be greeted by rounds of applause and thunderclaps. I began with the song with Mohana raagam much to the groans of my trapped classmates from class II, who had expected the Mani Ratnam movie song. I still finished my song and continued to the movie version with whatever lyrics I understood at that age.

Don’t know why I still find it as hilarious as I did then.